Happy New Year every one. I hope you all have had a nice holiday so far. As for me, yes, my family and I had a very nice Christmas. I have read many accounts of family discord over holiday gatherings and have witnessed a few. It took me a number of years to come to some resolutions but I would like to share some of these with you. I feel strongly that if I could help just one angry, resentful person out there this would all be worth it.
Let’s face it, generally speaking, we have all had disappointments in our lifetime. Some being much worse than others. Sometimes we are even left with feelings of wanting revenge. As someone told me recently, she was so angry at someone that she absolutely wanted to kill him. She related the reason why to me and while doing so it was obvious she meant it to the degree that she even began planning it out. It was frightening to me to see her that angry. My advice to her was that she must realize what these emotions were doing to her body. I told her that she was hurting herself far more than she was hurting this other person. She had spent a lot of time, money, and energy trying to get the man put in prison to no avail because the women he had raped would not cooperate fully with her or the police. This was all years ago and she finally had to give it up. But she still carried this anger and resentment around with her even though she had moved away from where the man lived and committed the crimes. I tried to get her to understand that she was allowing this man to continue to control her and hurt her. Why do that? Why not decide to let it go. Not for the man but for herself. She should love and care enough for herself to drop the awful feelings. Fill your heart with love. Love for all the good things we see out there if we choose to look. Yes, there are frustrations in life but that is part of living. There are also many things that most of us can be thankful for. Let’s dwell on those.
Be kind and loving to yourself and others. That’s my bottom line.
