How many times have we seen this behavior in others (hopefully not ourselves). What I am referring to is when we want someone else to “make us happy.” This is typical of a co-dependent type relationship. I personally have a problem with someone feeling like they have a “missing piece” that needs to be filled by another person. This is a heavy burden on the other person. My point is that you need to be able to “make yourself happy.” There is nothing wrong with searching for a “perfect mate.” To me this person and you share lots of common interest. This person and you have deep trust in, and respect for, each other. This person and you love each other dearly and have lots of fun together but also have interest that may not include the other person. This person and you give each other space. You walk along life together side by side holding hands to share the burdens of everyday life and support each other. But you do not “depend” on this other person to “make you happy.”
I would love to hear your thoughts on this subject.
Thank you for listening.
